Parking Problems & Spoon Theory
I am lucky and have an ‘allocated’ disabled bay – well it was allocated until we were moved to a temporary parking area for 12 months and now it has become a free-for-all for the ignorant drivers on site.
I usually get into work at 06:30-07:30, but this morning I got in around 09:30 because I needed to take the kitten to get neutered (poor boy)!
Below is what went through my head on the way into work this morning – luckily I was able to park between all the illegally parked vehicles, had I not got the one remaining space, it would have been a return trip home for me today!
...This is what I presume runs through the minds of most disabled drivers if they have to come into work a little later than planned?
Contemplating what they are going to do if they can’t park...
Would I block the cars in? – No because I’d be blocking the view to a crossing, endangering the safety of pedestrians
Would I park on a hazard like they have? – No because I’m not ignorant
Would I park in someone else’s disabled bay? – No because I’m not ignorant
Would I park in a carpark further away? – Possibly, if I’m having a good day and I know I can recover tomorrow
Would I have to go home? – Possibly, if I’m having a bad day and I’m already in pain
What other options are there for someone with painful physical disabilities who cannot walk far?
Those bottom two options are very important and that’s unfortunately how we live our lives every day – not just about parking – it’s called spoon theory (See wiki link), basically disabled people have a finite number of spoons (energy) to last the day, and able-bodied people have an infinite number.
We ‘use/spend’ spoons when we get dressed/drive to work/go upstairs/sit at the desk/do menial jobs– and so we must carefully manage our ‘spoons’ throughout the day
The original definition of Spoon Theory comes from a story written by Christine Miserandino from the blog www.butyoudontlooksick.com I remember reading it when she first published it, and it perfectly summed up exactly how I was feeling at the time, when the Doctors thought I had ME/CFS (I don’t but that’s another story).
I’ll link the full story here as it’s brilliant and really gets you into the minds of someone with a physical or a mental disability and how hard it is to manage day to day with pain.
[Update 24/11/15] Parking has now been solved by extra vigilance and reporting every driver who can't read the huge signs I created then laminated.
[Updated 03/12/15] Parking is now a problem again, the weather hasn't helped and I was nearly run over by a speeding car approaching the pedestrian crossing I was waiting patiently at - I was even waving at the driver to get his/her attention to slow down - they did, screeching in the wet!
I took the registration, and will report them, Merry Christmas!
I would advise all pedestrians to wear a fluorescent beanie hat like myself, it may save your life one day!
I would prefer education, but people are just too greedy/lazy especially when the weather is bad!